It can be frustrating balancing the fine line between being responsible in college and still having fun. You’re expected to be mature, but once you make an adult decision…Oops, you’re too young and don’t know what the hell you’re talking about.
Relationships especially are a kind of a catch 22. If you find that ‘Mr. Right Now’ and start to get serious, you’ll get back seat love drivers saying unhelpful things like “you have your whole life to get serious.” But if things don’t work out and you start to date, all you’ll get is shit like “I didn’t start dating until [insert fake age here].”
The roller coaster of irony applies with the actual relationship just as much as the societal concept of how you should act. It can be scary to think about being with one person for as long as you both shall live. At the same time, if you were alone, would you really be happier? It can be too much sometimes. Especially when the most you should be worrying about in college is why Nickelodeon doesn’t play “Spongebob” 24/7.
So how do you know which relationship status is the “right one?” The road not taken will always be in the back of your head. It all stems back to that old saying, if you just try one food at a restaurant, but don’t sample the buffet, you’ll feel like you’re missing out on the variety of flavors. It’s all a fine line to between balancing what you think you want and what is actually good for you.
The way I see it, if this person makes you happy, screw what everyone says, because in the end, you have to live with your decisions. Go with the first instinct of what you want instead of asking biased friends. Do what is best for you instead of doing what is expected of you. Like Jerry Greenfield, president of Ben & Jerry’s said, “if it’s not fun, why do it?” But please…wrap it before you tap it.